Because we are all REALLY trying our best

Despite the anger posts and frustrations over the past few weeks and months I have really tried today to find something that will help my insides. Whether or not we are trying to hurt each others feelings, looking for ways to be angry or even just taking whatever jabs we can with out meaning to or not we are all in it for one reason.

WE ALL REALLY THINK WE ARE DOING THE BEST WE CAN.
As mothers we have the ultimate guilt all the time. Did I do enough today? Did he watch to much Tv? Did I try to engage him in something good? Are they eating enough? Is he sick? Why did he throw up? And sometimes when the day is hard and the day is long and the day is full of disappointments and the mommy guilt is to much we get even more down on ourselves.

A phenomenon in the women world is how MEAN we are to each other. Honestly, Men don't do this to each other ( OK maybe a few do) but I never hear my husband say in Elders Quorum or on his blog or on twitter or a text that he was offended or hurt. (I don't know what it is about girls.)

Like I said in my other post I have really prayed hard to have the feelings go away. As I went about the morning I was so angry about something I had read. I really needed it to go away if I was going to be a mom today.

Elder Eyring's talk a month ago helped. Here are a few of the things I found.

I’m trying to be like Jesus; I’m following in his ways.
I’m trying to love as he did, in all that I do and say.
At times I am tempted to make a wrong choice,
But I try to listen as the still small voice whispers,
“Love one another as Jesus loves you.
Try to show kindness in all that you do.
Be gentle and loving in deed and in thought,
For these are the things Jesus taught.”²

"Just as Jesus used a child in His mortal ministry as an example for the people of the pure love they must and could have to be like Him, He has offered us the family as an example of an ideal setting in which we can learn how to love as He loves.

That is because the greatest joys and the greatest sorrows we experience are in family relationships. The joys come from putting the welfare of others above our own. That is what love is. And the sorrow comes primarily from selfishness, which is the absence of love."

The last statement of how the greatest joys and sorrows are felt in a family. That is so true. And I wish I didn't know that right now. I am ready to feel the joys.. Not the sorrows.

Whether people think of others as full of drama, that they are doing this to themselves or that we can find anger and something wrong in everything that is going on. The end result is EVERYONE .. every mother I know is really trying their best to do what they think is best for their child.

I know I am just trying my best. I am trying my best and like everyone else don't want to feel judged or attack.


He closes by saying "I hope you will go out today looking for opportunities to do as He did and to love as He loves. I can promise you the peace that you felt as a child will come to you often and it will linger with you. The promise is true that He made to His disciples: “Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you: not as the world giveth, give I unto you."