Friday, October 10, 2008

Communication.... Some day...

I was reading Mel's blog and I LOVED the picture and I loved the most recent post. I loved it because I am not alone.

The word communication is so big. There is a lot of ways to communicate. For the most part, I am usually really good at communicating with him. I can usually figure out what he wants, how he wants and how to make him happy. But today was NOT one of those days.

While I know that Tyler seems so "typical" to the outside world there is nothing "typical" about watching him become increasingly frustrated as I can't "guess" what he wants. I get that most of you are saying well "most kids you have to guess?" Really, since when does you average 3 year old make grunting noises and point? Since when did your average 3 year old have a vocabulary of 3 words? Since when did your "typical" 3 year old get so frustrated that he bangs his head on the floor, wall or any other surface ( thank goodness sometimes it is pillows) because no one can guess what he wants?

Temper tantrums go with the territory. Three year old's get upset. But today was just more and more and increasingly frustrated. When you compound on top of it the frustration I feel when he won't say dad and just wants to be picked up and held. Or if I walk away he totally freaks out and no one but mom can or will suffice, my frustration compounds.

I love my son. I care about him. I want to meet his needs. If I love him how can I be so frustrated?

Some days I am at the end of my rope... Some days I am very done. Some days I can't do it any more. Some days I wonder how much more I can do.

Some day he will talk.

As a wise person once said, I guess I will be changing my prayers..

8 comments:

Penny Ryder said...

Hi. Sorry you've had a tough day with your little one. I can hear that your heart has been breaking. Know that I am thinking of you.

Mrs. Cheeseball said...

So, my good friend has a hard time communicating with her son too. He has Williams Syndrome. You could read her blog sometime: http://williamssyndrome.blogspot.com/. That's Mercedes (Murdock) from Castle Dale.

Jen said...

I'm thinking of you Nancy! :)

Good N Crazy said...

Whoa. You are right. Dealing with crazy toddlers is one thing. But helping one that cannot communicate what they want/need/love/excites them must feel like torture? What are Dr.s telling you and have you been to your local Early Childhood Intervention? they are generally free to help you get your kid tested and if he needs help the work they do after that is also free? I haven't read enough of your posts to know if you've already been down this road and have this info or not??

I do know that if they even suspect Autism then getting the child a lot of help early on is helping sooooo much!

I feel for you, good luck and God Bless.

Chantel said...

Sorry you had a rough day. My sister is dealing with the same thing every day. Her little guy has apraxia and is in therapy for it. I wish there was a "simple" answer to help you out :) Good luck!

Mel said...

Thanks for the compliment!

We've dealt with the head banging also. I feel your pain but honestly there has to be something that can be done. Maybe we can figure this out together.

Amelia said...

I'm so sorry that you had one of "those" days. I feel you, I really do. As you said, and as I constantly remind myself, just as they eventually learned to walk, one day they WILL talk. And we will appreciate and treasure everything they say more than your "average" mom could ever understand.

Trish said...

Sorry to hear that you've had such a rough day - believe, I know how hard it is to figure out what a non-verbal toddler wants (and mine didn't even point at that age, just cried and fussed).

Almost four years later, I have to remind myself of that every time I want him to stop talking and be quiet!